Oprah with Harry & Meghan recap - everything that was revealed in the two-hour special

royals 08/03/2021

If you tuned into the Oprah with Meghan & Harry two-hour special on Three, you will understand how there is a lot to process. From Meghan revealing that the Duchess of Cambridge made her cry, that Harry & Meghan considered moving to New Zealand to get away from it all and Meghan's loving relationship with Her Majesty The Queen - Oprah got the Sussex's to spill on it all.

They even revealed that they're expecting a baby girl to complete their family of four.

Harry and Meghan got married three days before their televised royal wedding

“Three days before our wedding, we got married,” Markle revealed. “Nobody knows that.” She and Harry called the Archbishop of Canterbury and told him that the royal wedding was a “spectacle” for the world—and they wanted an authentic ceremony with just the two of them in their backyard.

Meghan didn't know she had to curtsy for The Queen

“She was one of the first people I met. There wasn’t actually a huge formality the first time I met Her Majesty The Queen. We were going to lunch at Royal Lodge, which is where some of the other members of the family lived, specifically Andrew and Fergie and Eugenie and Beatrice. Eugenie and I had known each other before I knew Harry, so that was comfortable. It turned out the queen was finishing a church service there in Windsor, and she was gonna be at the house. I remember Harry and I were in the car. He [was like, ‘My grandmother’s here, so you’re gonna meet her.” [I said], ‘Oh, great. I loved my grandmother. I used to take care of her.” 

Then Prince Harry asked Markle if she knew how to curtsy. “I thought, genuinely, that was what happened outside. I thought that was part of the fanfare,” Markle said. “I didn’t know that’s what happens inside.” “But it’s your grandmother,” Markle said, to which Prince Harry said, “It’s the queen."

Later in the interview, Meghan said of the Queen: “She’s always been warm and inviting and really welcoming," and revealed that she received a beautiful set of pearl earrings and a matching necklace from Harry's grandmother. 

The Duchess of Cambridge made Meghan cry

The rumor that she made Kate Middleton cry was a “turning point,” Markle says. “The narrative with Kate, which didn’t happen, was really, really difficult. I think that’s when everything changed, really." Markle never made Middleton cry. “The reverse happened,” Markle said. “I say that not to be disparaging to anyone because it was a really hard week [of the 2018 wedding], and she was upset about something. She owned it and she apologized, and she brought me flowers and a note apologizing. She did what I would do if I knew I hurt someone. To just take accountability for it … I would’ve never wanted that to come out about her,” Markle continued. “Ever. Even thought it had happened. I protected that from ever being out in the world.” 

Markle says a few days before the wedding, Middleton was upset about flower girl dresses, and it made Markle. “It really hurt my feelings,” Markle said. “I thought in the context of everything that was going on in those days leading to the wedding that it didn’t make sense to not just be doing what everyone else was doing, which was being supportive knowing what was going on with my dad and whatnot.”

Markle says she’s forgiven Middleton and has moved on, but “What was hard to get over was being blamed for something that not only I didn’t do, but that happened to me. And the people who were a part of our wedding going to our comms team and saying, ‘I know this didn’t happen.’"

There were conversations about unborn Archie's skin colour

“In those months when I was pregnant…[there were] concerns and conversations about how dark his skin might be when he was born," Meghan said to Oprah's visible shock. When asked who were having those conversations, she declined to reveal saying, "I think that would be very damaging to them."

Toward the end of the interview, Oprah asked Harry to elaborate on the verbiage used. “That conversation, I’m never going to share. But the timing was awkward; I was a bit shocked.”He added it "was right at the beginning, when [Meghan] wasn’t going to get security, when members of my family were suggesting that she carries on acting because there’s not enough money to pay for her. There were some real obvious signs before we got married that this was going to be really hard.”

Meghan revealed she hit a devastating low-point

Meghan says the media scrutiny got so bad that she wasn't okay. “I was really ashamed to say it at the time and ashamed to have to admit it to Harry, especially because I know how much loss he’s suffered. But I knew that if I didn’t say it, that I would do it,” she says of self-harm. “I just didn’t want to be alive anymore, and that was a very clear and real and frightening constant thought.” 

Markle told Oprah she approached to a senior member of the royal institution and said she needed to go somewhere to get help, but was told she couldn’t because it would be a bad look for the institution. “I share this because there are so many people who are afraid to voice that they need help,” she says. She even went to human resources—yes, the royal industrial complex has HR— but was told they couldn’t do anything for her because she wasn’t a paid member of the royal family. “I thought it would have solved everything for everyone,” she says of the suicidal thoughts. 

One of Diana’s best friends ended up being a source of comfort, as she was one of the few people who  truly knew what Meghan was going through. Meghan spoke of a night that she and Harry went to an event at the Royal Albert Hall—earlier that morning, she had told Harry about her suicidal thoughts. When he suggested she miss the event, she told him, “I can’t be left alone.” In the photos from that night, she says, you can see how tightly he’s holding her hand to comfort her.

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Meghan and Harry revealed the gender of their second child

Harry and Meghan reveal they’re having a baby girl. “Amazing,” Harry says. “Just grateful...to have a boy and then a girl, what more can you ask for? We’ve got our family.” They said they’re done after two kids. The baby is due this summer, the couple shared, and also said the plan is to only have two children. 

Prince Charles stopped answering Harry's calls

“I’ve spoken more to my grandmother in the last year than I have for many, many years.” Prince Harry says his father is taking his calls now.” “There’s a lot to work through there,” he says. “I feel really let down because he’s been through something similar. He knows what pain feels like, and Archie’s his grandson. But at the same time, I will always love him. There’s a lot of hurt that’s happened, and I will continue to make it one of my priorities to try and heal that relationship. They only know what they know, and that’s the thing: I’ve tried to educate them through the process I have been educated.”

Prince Harry and Prince William are on very different paths

“I love William to bits. He’s my brother; we’ve been through hell together, and have a shared experience. But we are on different paths.”